The Second Foster Placement

9 06 2018

Our first placements included one who was medically fragile and that brought a whole new level of care that while we weren’t trained for, with prayer and help from lots of folks we completed.

Our second placement we requested out of a group home. She was good for a few weeks and then the defiance started. Having raised 4 kids we knew a little something about defiance but this young lady took it to levels we were not prepared for. Some of that I think was due to influences from her mother who was very vocal about her rights. I am all for peoples rights but for me that isn’t the first argument or comeback when things aren’t as they should be. The other thing that made this somewhat difficult is that this placement had court ordered phone calls with her grandparents that we had to supervise. The last thing I really wanted to do was listen in on another conversation that had nothing to do with me.

We had to fight to get her services. Removing her from a group home where there were lots of other kids to our home where she was effectively and only child was not a good move for her. We ended up asking to have her moved out of our home. Part of this was the fact that she was defiant beyond what we could handle and our support team didn’t have any suggestions that worked. Part of this was failure on both sides in regards to our licensing agency. Only when we were at the point of disruption did they mention services that they had for us. Because this was having a very negative effect on my wife and myself, though to a lesser degree, we ended up disrupting.

Thankfully our licensing agency was able to find another home within their agency to place her and she did much better there with other kids. She finally ended up be reunited with her mother.

Until next time…


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